My sister Kate blogged the other day about unreliable cars. On my way to the store today, I was thinking about that and the problems that some people have with relationships. Well I'll be darned if I didn't have one of those epiphany things! I thought maybe I was having a stroke, but luckily it turned out to be an epiphany. Well, as Kate would say, "Far be it from me to keep my wisdom to myself" so I'm sharing this with all of you.
Kate recently bought the car of her dreams. Or what she THOUGHT was the car of her dreams. It had buttery-soft leather seats that were heated, and it drove like a dream. At least for a while. It was the car she had dreamed of since childhood. Alas, only a few months later, she discovered that this magnificent car was a lemon. It was costing a fortune, not only for regular maintenance, but also, every time it broke down it was exceedingly more costly than she had ever thought it would be. Yep, she was in a quandary. Should she stick with the car she thought was the car of her dreams and pay the price, or should she dump it and take her losses? Being of a sound age - meaning she's over 40, she decided she would be best off to cut her losses and go back to a more reliable, sensible model that wasn't as beautiful or exciting as the other.
I just happen to know some people in the same situation - except they're in relationships just like Kate had with her car. Now far be it from me to think I've got all the answers, but as I've gotten older, I've sure learned a lot about life.
Some people are smart enough to buy the "reliable car" from the beginning. It lasts them forever and they're completely content to watch other people driving the fast, exciting, beautiful models which will eventually break down, and become very costly. Some people know they've bought the wrong car, but stick with it simply because they feel like they have too much invested and just don't see the sense in taking a loss on it - even if they're miserable. They continue to think "If I just fix this ONE MORE THING, than I KNOW this will be the car I've always wanted." Unfortunately, they keep dumping resources into a piece of junk they should have gotten rid of a long time ago. Some of us, have to try a lot of models (I'm included in this bunch) before they come to the realization that the reliable models are the way to go. It took me 4 marriages to finally settle down with Elmer even though we had started dating when he was 16 and I was 18. We've now been married 22 (very interesting!) years.
When we're young, we seem to need the exciting cars - even if they break down all the time and deep in our hearts, we know we're putting way more into them than we're getting out of it. A nice reliable vehicle is just boring. But fortunately, as we grow older and wiser (and trust me, I'll happily grow older every year because I'm SO MUCH more content in my life now that I'm wiser) we realize that in order to be happy, we need that comfortable car we know will be reliable and be right there when we need it. And we discover that we don't need to try every model out there in order to know what we really need and want.
So I leave you with this thought. Listen to your HEAD, NOT you're heart when you're buying a car or looking for a lasting relationship - you'll be so much happier, and life will be so much more rewarding, when you realize that in order to be truly happy in life, you have to give up a bit of the excitement you think you need when you're young. If you're willing to find the reliable car, you won't have to buy a new one every few years.
Yep, it's nice to know that Elmer and I will be hitting the junkyard together...
Auntie Pat knows just how to make a girl happy. She brought special sparkling cider for Grace along with three glasses so the kids could toast to their new "forever family."
We all enjoyed a little get-together at our house after the hearing.
Adam got his deer...
Mom has a badger visiting her ground feeder almost every day (night)...
And Zooey has life figured out. If it's raining, you don't have to get your feet wet if you sleep on top of one of the big dogs...
Maybe if I go buy a BSU couch, I could curl up in the fetal position and love it, and just wait for next season...
I would love to have a farm on the Palouse. The beautiful rolling hills of wheat are so peaceful. Yep, I'd like that...
I would love to have this home near Yellowstone. It's one of only two "big" homes I chose. But oh, isn't it magnificent? And being near Yellowstone - that would be heaven.
I've always wanted to turn an old church or school into a home. I'd love it to be in central Oregon somewhere. Yea, somewhere in the pines...
Well, ya gotta have a beach house. This one's in Hawaii - why be anywhere else if you're going to be on a beach?
This would probably be my dream tree house. I think I'd like for it to be in Oregon or Vermont. I've never actually been to Vermont but it's the one place in the United States that I would LOVE to see. It just sounds like I would love it there...
So if you could have 8 homes anywhere, where would they be and what would they look like? Be sure to let me know if you blog about your choices. I want to see what you've come up with! Who knows, maybe you'll learn something about yourself like I did!
I was in my bathroom putting on makeup. I've got this handy-dandy stuff I put on for "deep wrinkles". Adam, my dear-sweet-wonderful-smart-ass-14-year-old walked in and asked "What's that?"
